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Emotional Freedom – Does It Exist?!

Experiencing emotional freedom after forty-five (or any other age) is a significant personal achievement. Feeling free to experience, accept, and let go of emotions while learning valuable life lessons signifies that we have reached emotional maturity. If you still seek meaning and self-expression through other people, readily giving up favorite activities, tastes, religion or faith, just to please them, perhaps it’s worth reading on. Let’s explore what this sweet phrase “emotional freedom” really means.

You take full responsibility for the feelings and emotions you experience, instead of constantly feeling like a victim of circumstances and people. If you idealize someone, making them your idol, their inability to meet your expectations will result in bitter disappointment. Sounds familiar? A husband doesn’t live up to your expectations, a friend betrays you, children are ungrateful; you sacrificed so much for them, yet they don’t even worry about how you’ll spend your old age.

We are emotionally free when we know how to acknowledge our emotions, feel them in our body, fully process them, learn from them, and then let them go, instead of allowing emotions to completely control our minds and bodies, jumping with rage at every emotional outburst and impulsively exploding over trivial matters. This doesn’t mean at all that we become emotionally unavailable; quite the opposite, we comfortably accept our emotions, filter them through our inner core, attentively and sensitively listen to them with kindness and tenderness, allowing ourselves to feel and release pain or fully immerse ourselves in joyful, or not so joyful sensations. Therefore, explosive outbursts over minor incidents, impulsive behavior, blaming others for everything, and the need to always be the center of attention indicate that we’re dealing with an emotionally immature adult. I’m sure we all know who those people are.

The emotions we experience are the barometer of our inner self. Hurtful emotions, caused by our thoughts and actions, such as anxiety, guilt, shame, anger, fear of the past and future, resentment, emptiness, and loneliness, indicate that we have somehow lost connection to our inner selves, ignoring our feelings and needs, condemning ourselves, numbing and suppressing them with alcohol and other substances, and solemnly shifting the responsibility for our emotional well-being onto a loved one. “Because of them, I suffer so much, if it weren’t for their indifference towards me, I would be absolutely happy… and so on – use your own.

Key negative emotions are those emotions we receive from life, people and circumstances around us. These include sadness, sorrow, loneliness, grief, heartache, a broken heart, fear of real danger, injustice, and helplessness in life situations. These emotions tell us that someone or something may potentially be a threat to us or that we’re not receiving enough love as we see it. Even if these emotions arise independently of us, we still bear responsibility for how we acknowledge and process them, whether we treat ourselves with compassion and empathy, giving ourselves time to experience events and process emotions, or whether we avoid them in every possible way, thus causing ourselves hurtful feelings.

And finally, the reward for our emotional freedom is always tremendously beautiful – inner peace, love, joy, inspiration, passion, zest for life, self-actualization, and a sincere and open view of the world around us!!! They will bring into our lives the most important thing one can wish for – the ability to listen to and hear ourselves, to be honest, sincere, and merciful to our inner selves, and therefore to the world around us, not to dive into the abyss of dependencies and all kinds of emotional substitutes, but to boldly accept the challenge that life throws at us and respond with open heart, empathy, and creativity. Make that step towards yourself and there will never be a way back.


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